It has occurred to me recently that so many people put others up on a pedestal. I don’t think that people realize the damage that can do. If you really think about it its absolutely ridiculous, the reason I say this is because it is litteraly impossible for people to be perfect and always living up to your standards. There is no such thing as a perfect wife, mother, husband, child, etc. Nothing in this world is perfect!
When you put someone up on that pedestal they will eventually fail. Maybe not today or tomorrow, but they will fail in some way big or small. Its just the way of life. That doesn’t mean that person is a failure it just means that they are human. But when they do fail depending on the severity it can ruin the relationship all together, no matter what type of relationship it is. Because in your eyes they are no longer worthy or whatever.
Sometimes it is just better to mind your own business and stop dictating to others how or what they should be doing in their lives. Especially if you didnt do to well with your own life. I know for myself I dont mind getting advice but don’t you dare sit there and get pissed at me because I don’t take your advice or your advice didn’t work. That does happen you know. Not everything that works for you will work for others.
Its really funny to me how people can be generally bad people and have the audacity to belittle or bad mouth those who are actually doing quite well and are for the most part happy. I dont know I guess they are so miserable with their own lives they have to try and pick the good ones apart little by little until there is nothing left, or the hatred between the two is unmistakable.
So why do that to yourself or others? Why not just accept that things are the way they are. There is nothing wrong with trying to help people but don’t be ugly to them if they take their own route. Thats how we all learn!
So I have struggled with what kind of career I want to have for a really long time. I really wanted to deal with animals especially equestrian science but thats 8 yrs of college and that just wont happen so; I had thought about cosmetology since im very good with makeup and what not but its just not what I want to do. Recently I looked into laser hair removal tech here in Texas and that is something I could definitely manage. But heres the catch, I mentioned it to my husband and he is not a fan of the idea. He really just doesnt want me to work period. Its sweet but yeah….our son starts pre-k in Sept and I really feel like I need to do more than just a house wife. Granted my house is always spotless and everyone is always taken care of but I’ve always worked since I was a kid.
When I mentioned it to him he asked me about men having the procedure done and I explained that yes men do it too of course but its rare. I figure it would mainly be on their backs and things like that. I think hes genuinely concerned about that private area. Kinda makes me laugh but I understand where hes coming from. So I flat out asked him if he just didnt want me to do it and his answer made me feel so good. Hes not a lovey dovey kind of guy so…..He said “I want to keep you to myself, your mine”. Its kind of funny really since hes a total chick magnet, i’m the less attractive one of the two of us. He acts like I’m kind of replaceable I guess you could say. I know thats not his intention but thats the impression I get. I think theres some logic in his mind behind it, but it drives me nuts.
I guess I’m just worried about our future more than anything. He is sick and i’m afraid once he gets alittle older he wont be able to work and everything will fall on me, and I wont be prepared. Granted he gets his disability for life but that may not be enough. I’ll be 27 this year 😦 and for me I dont want to wait till i’m older to start a career. I honestly don’t know what to do or think. I am content with our situation as it is. But I’d like to buy myself something without feeling guilty, which is my own doing not his. Or be able to get him a surprise without it being bought technically with his money.
I don’t know , its a sticky one.
How many of us/you have been or are in a relationship where there was a double standard?
This is something that I feel very strongly about. I absolutely hate the double standard. To me if you do not want your significant other to do something like go to the bar, dancing, or anything else where the potential of get hit on is high then they shouldn’t think its ok for them to do it.
Some may think its just being controlling but its not. I guess what brought this topic on is my husband is going to a bachelor party this weekend and you know they will do the usual guy stuff, bar , strip club…. He can’t drink because of his meds so things like that aren’t very fun. Just sitting watching his friends get wasted. He was honest with me about their agenda which I really appreciate since hes extremely private and makes me alittle suspicious sometimes. He doesn’t mean to its just the way he is. I am extremely insecure but I rarely question him and never look through is phone or personal accounts. Anyway so when he told me about the bar I asked if I could go to the bar with my friends when they go and he just gave me a little smerk and said no you can’t go without me. So yeah I hope that when this Sat. comes he will make the right call and respect my wishes like I do his. They have quite a few things planned other than that stuff so I know he will have fun and he definitely deserves it!
I dont know why this is a really big deal for me but it is. I guess in my eyes its a sign of disrespect and just flat out not caring. We may have a marriage thats kind of different but its what works for us. We dont nag at eachother but we do have an understanding and I guess in some ways it helps keep me on level ground. Don’t get me wrong I really do enjoy going out and having a good time but i would never want to put myself in a potential bad situation or ever make him need to question my loyalty.
So yesterday was a good day for my little family. My husband took us to a carnival/rodeo. Of course the rodeo wasn’t until later that evening so we missed it which was a bummer but it was nice just to watch our son enjoy himself riding the kiddie rides and run around. Later that evening we dyed easter eggs, which of course anything that involves making a mess and being silly is a huge hit! I hope everyone has had a wonderful Easter! God bless!!